Controversy Pushes Girl Off Co-Ed Hockey Team

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It sucks, but if she was to be cut for poor performance you cant take it too personally.

Unfortunately human nature is to focus attention on things which already bother us, and then we see the faults easily. Was she the worst player on the team? Were there boys on the team who weren't playing well and weren't improving but who escaped attention because this girl was taking all the heat for them? Or was the criticism founded and now we're focusing on the mean dad picking on a little girl.

Who knows.

I agree, but if several parents are supporting this and kids were ready to abandon the team.... regardless she is on a all girls team and should hopefully have more fun.

She's 12. She shouldn't be on a boy's team anymore. That should end around 9 or 10. Nevermind using the same changing room at 12. I'm sorry, even if she volunteered to put up with that, I'm sure it made some of the boys and parents uncomfortable.

That said, I coach kids soccer and my wife coaches kids hockey. There is no way either of us would let parents call the shots like this and run someone off my team. Then again, if I were coach, there's no way I'd have 12 year old girls and boys undressing in the same roomm esepcially with a male coach present. That's just retarded.

Sounds like a bunch of bad decisions all around.

Except that the parent didn't. He wrote an agenda to the coaches, the girl got to see it (mom showed it to her?) and the girl quit because she now is uncomfortable. Surprised she wasn't uncomfortable changing with the boys.

Except that the parent didn't. He wrote an agenda to the coaches, the girl got to see it (mom showed it to her?) and the girl quit because she now is uncomfortable. Surprised she wasn't uncomfortable changing with the boys.

Exactly--I wouldn't let a parent write the agenda for a meeting. Otherwise (say the parent's kid's name was "Bob") it would look like this:

1. How to get Bob more ice time
2. Getting other players to pass to Bob
3. Team captain nominations - Bob

... you get the drift.

I can't complain; I've got great parents, actually. But hockey is more of a challenge.

I agree with the change room fiasco but to me the guy sounds like he's tryin to get his son to live his dream (or he's always that overbearing). In my opinion, the kids are twelve and you shouldn't be worrying about being competitive as much.

He's a lawyer.

He's a lawyer.

I stand corrected.

Can he be a dick too?

Come on now, it's easy enought to partition a dressing room for a girl to use part of it, this is the LOWEST skill level of competitive hockey for this age group meaning that everyone has the right to play, she obviously passed camp/tryouts and 14 games into the season all of a sudden it's an issue, sorry sounds like someone has an agenda.

She's a very graceful person for one so young, to bow out over this, I hope her parents can find a league she can play in, maybe a rec league or skills camp, or maybe she coiuld move over to a girls team, theres a way for her to play if she wants to.

There is a partition; it's called the girls' league.

There is a partition; it's called the girls' league.
Yup, I went to class with a few girls that were scouted for the future, they still had to play in the girls league despite being some of the best in the female one. She is below their skill level and shows no sign of improvement (usually you get cut for that), and she is likely a distraction to the boys on her team (if you have a girl changing in the same room you would be distracted too).

When did all this "co-ed" hockey start anyway? And what was the agenda? When I played hockey it was full-contact and nobody would have suggested having a girl on the team. What happened? Political correctness run amok?