[Newsbot]

Title: Bullied student finds support
Category: Misc CDN
Posted By: Hyack
Date: 2009-02-26 14:11:38
Canadian

[tritium]

Personally I am interested in what officials at West Credit High School are saying and what are they going to do?

http://westcreditss.peelschools.org

I think Principal - Mr. M. Giraldi, should be fired for his incompetence to deal with the matter.

They sure didn't live up to their code of conduct.

"West Credit Secondary School recognizes that students achieve their best when they feel safe, nurtured, welcomed, respected and included."

http://qps.peelschools.org/QuickPlace/w ... enDocument

[TattoodGirl]

Sad to see things never change but seem to get worse. I hated highschool because of assholes, when I fought back I was kicked out and sent to other schools. I didnt find a supportive school environment until I went to the greatest alternate school, IMO, the world. But the one thing is, I have never let anyone ever push me around since or treat me like crap. I also love the reaction on some of my tormentors faces when they see the poor foster kid actually made a good life for herself.

Kudos for this girl for speaking out.

[SigPig]

tritium tritium:

Personally I am interested in what officials at West Credit High School are saying and what are they going to do?

http://westcreditss.peelschools.org

I think Principal - Mr. M. Giraldi, should be fired for his incompetence to deal with the matter.

They sure didn't live up to their code of conduct.

"West Credit Secondary School recognizes that students achieve their best when they feel safe, nurtured, welcomed, respected and included."

http://qps.peelschools.org/QuickPlace/w ... enDocument

They dont call West Credit "Whatsacredit" for no reason. It has a reputation for being filled with delinquints and kids with behavioural problems.

That is what makes this story so much worse. You have a girl working to succeed and make something of herself in this environment and she is brutalized for it. Very sad indeed.

[DerbyX]

Speaking up is the right thing to do but often its so hard to do so because that person then gets called a snitch or rat and branded for life.

I recall my worst experience in bullying. Grade 10. A larger kid (they always are) who must have been held back at least 2 grades because he stood at least a foot taller then me and had some 20 kilos more of muscle. It wasn't just me, he took his turn picking on everybody except his little gang which included 4 or 5 of the "popular" boys. During laps he came up behind me and body-checked me into a wall. I just took it without saying a word. After all he had done it before to others and they had taken it as well without ratting him out to the teachers. Its only by looking back do I remember that the ones telling everybody about the no-telling code were the ones laughing as he did this. Perhaps some of them did so lest they be targets as well. This went on for a week or so until he moved on to his next target.

Unfortunately his next target was the smallest kid in the class. Shorter then me and a really skinny kid. The bully was easily twice his size. It was like the difference between a 5 year old and a 10 year old.

It was during the spring vault that he decided to strike. If you remember this exercise then you recall we all line up at one end and take turns running towards the vault and jumping over that assembled little pyramid with the red foam top.

The poor kid was running at the vault full tilt when he came out of nowhere and as his usual M/O body slammed him in mid stride. The kid went flying across the gym and slammed into the brick wall and collapsed in a heap. We all thought he was dead. Our PE teacher flew out of his office (where he was during every other attack) and for the first time in my life I say that bully show fear. He backed him up against the wall and despite the fact that the bully was actually a head taller then my PE teacher he was cornered like a quivering mouse. Not even the bullies friends came to his aid. By then the rest of us had gone over to help the poor kid who got slammed who was fortunately not badly hurt just winded. To his credit he didn't cry or whimper or anything. After making sure that the boy was OK he told us all to shower and wait for him to get back and then he frog-marched that bastard straight to the principals office. We never saw him again. He was expelled from the school that day and may even have been kicked off the base entirely by the BCO because we didn't see him around the PMQs either. He may also have been kicked out of his house though.

Whats distressing looking back though is that despite this being an obvious case of bullying that simply went on and got worse as it did the school did nothing. They did not interview a single person with the exception of the boy in question. They had made no announcements about bullying nor had the teachers address the subject with any class. They swept the entire thing under the rug and even though everybody was relived he was gone it did nothing at all to deal with the situation.

[Choban]

I'm happy that speaking out seems to have worked for her (so far), at least she's getting some support now which is more that she had to begin with.

[Yogi]

In dealing with a bully, retribution must be immediate, swift, and severe!
The bully 'picks his/her victim because they don't expect any other than their own 'preconceived reaction'.
Immediate reaction gives the 'victim' the element of surprise.
Move fast, this is critical. The bully 'picked you' because they are 'bigger& stronger'. Don't allow them the opportunity to 'get a hold on you'.
Severe retaliation is of utmost importance. Don't 'let up' until you see THEIR blood. This not only sends a message to the bully, but also to his/her minions. That message of course is 'Don't fuck with me. I fuck back!

[poquas]

Yogi Yogi:

Severe retaliation is of utmost importance. Don't 'let up' until you see THEIR blood. This not only sends a message to the bully, but also to his/her minions. That message of course is 'Don't fuck with me. I fuck back!

While I like the idea for personal reasons, it's also the riskiest action that you can take. Your Don't fuck with me. I fuck back! is a much stronger motivator for the bully than the victim. It can cause an already bad situation to escalate to an even worse one.

[Yogi]

poquas poquas:

Yogi Yogi:

Severe retaliation is of utmost importance. Don't 'let up' until you see THEIR blood. This not only sends a message to the bully, but also to his/her minions. That message of course is 'Don't fuck with me. I fuck back!

While I like the idea for personal reasons, it's also the riskiest action that you can take. Your Don't fuck with me. I fuck back! is a much stronger motivator for the bully than the victim. It can cause an already bad situation to escalate to an even worse one.

Of course retaliation is risky. That is why speed & severity are of utmost importance.
One must learn not to be afraid of a bit of pain. That's Gods way of telling you " You're still alive. Keep fighting"!
Physical injuries heal. Emotional injuries rarely ever do!

[poquas]

Yogi Yogi:

Of course retaliation is risky. That is why speed & severity are of utmost importance.
One must learn not to be afraid of a bit of pain. That's Gods way of telling you " You're still alive. Keep fighting"!
Physical injuries heal. Emotional injuries rarely ever do!

Subtly doesn’t mean much to you, does it?

Beating up the bully will result in a worse result 99% of the time. Emotional damage to the bully who will be desperate to act out his or her retaliation is no better than the emotional damage to their victims.

[Yogi]

poquas poquas:

Yogi Yogi:

Of course retaliation is risky. That is why speed & severity are of utmost importance.
One must learn not to be afraid of a bit of pain. That's Gods way of telling you " You're still alive. Keep fighting"!
Physical injuries heal. Emotional injuries rarely ever do!

Subtly doesn’t mean much to you, does it?

Beating up the bully will result in a worse result 99% of the time. Emotional damage to the bully who will be desperate to act out his or her retaliation is no better than the emotional damage to their victims.

Being that I was always the smallest kid in the class. I know well of what I speak.

Even some of the 'larger girls' tried to bully me. 'A thumb on their jugular & a handfull of snatch' immediately got their attention!

Word gets around. Nobody ever came back for 'seconds'!

[poquas]

Yogi Yogi:

Being that I was always the smallest kid in the class. I know well of what I speak.

Even some of the 'larger girls' tried to bully me. 'A thumb on their jugular & a handfull of snatch' immediately got their attention!

Word gets around. Nobody ever came back for 'seconds'!

Great. It solved your immediate problem. I'll guarantee somebody else paid for it.

[saturn_656]

poquas poquas:

Emotional damage to the bully

Why is this a concern?

[ziggy]

saturn_656 saturn_656:

poquas poquas:

Emotional damage to the bully

Why is this a concern?

Maybe he's talking about himself.

[Yogi]

saturn_656 saturn_656:

poquas poquas:

Emotional damage to the bully

Why is this a concern?

It isn't!

In fact it is a necessary 'by-product' of the bullies own actions. A little bit of 'the hair of the dog', if you will!