OnTheIce OnTheIce:
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Absolutely. But being proactive would be even better. Get the kids in groups to talk about their problems and solutions. And not just the kids identified as having problems, but all the kids. Often you hear how well the kid seemed to be doing before they killed themselves, there were not outward signs.
Perhaps the signs just aren't known or understood by parents.
No doubt. But they would also sometimes not be identified even by professionals - they often get it wrong. If you put it all on the parents to identify the "problem kid" it just makes the kid the problem, if you see what I mean. It's the same in family therapy, where the parents bring in the kid to have him/her fixed, when most often the kid's behaviour is just a signal something is wrong in the family. The family needs fixing, not just the "problem kid."
What I was talking about was creating an environment where kids feel OK with bringing out their problems. Not just at home, but quite likely in a group of kids. Not a group of "kids with problems" but just all kids able to express themselves and be guided in how to do it in a supportive way. Then if serious problems show up, the kid(s) might be passed on to something more intensive. IMO, group therapy is still often more effective for teens than one on one. Unless the kid is truly psychotic or such.